‘Disconnection, focusing on the external…what’s it all about anyway? And why we need reminders to stay connected…’


This blog has sprung out of having a really uncomfortable last two days. I’ll be honest, I haven’t felt that rough in a long time and I managed to find a lot of things to pin that on: the cold dull weather here in Ireland after a glorious half year in Asia (and recent week in Ibiza), not working enough, wanting to earn more money, thinking about the imminent change ahead of me with a baby due in September, missing loved ones…the list was extensive. The result was I felt really disconnected and by that I mean I just couldn’t feel my natural state (the one we all have) of joy, gratitude and excitement. It’s a bad habit, we all do it from time to time many of us do it all the time without even knowing it and that’s “placing our focus on the external” or “looking outside of ourselves for fulfillment”. 

There are so many ways to disconnect our selves; focusing externally on getting just the right house, job or even country to live in. Finding the perfect relationship, losing weight, putting on more weight, looking younger, looking older, having straight hair, having no hair, meeting the “right” influential people…its a crazy making list that goes on endlessly! 

This is a big, bad, dirty, horrible, unconscious habit to break and we all seem to have it to varying degrees. Many people live in this state perpetually. Just look around the shopping streets at the weekend for evidence of that or a regular night club on a Saturday evening! Those of us that drag ourselves kicking and screaming on to the spiritual path eventually start to make a dint in this deeply entrenched behavior pattern until we eventually heal it altogether. Until we start to recognize our own natural state of joy, gratitude and excitement we don’t really know what it is to feel that kind of connection to ourselves, to our Light, which is really our divine nature. So we traipse around feeling up and down constantly from day today without ever really knowing any sense of consistency, balance, peace or security. 

All Spiritual traditions point to this often in lofty terms difficult to understand. I am doing my best to simplify my understanding of this and share it here. What if we were to embrace the disconnection? Give it a big warm hug. It’s not who we are after all. Would that transform it and empower us at the same time? In my experience this morning on my yoga mat it did.  I was suddenly reminded that this heavy disconnected feeling was, like all others, going to pass on through as soon as I stopped making it real with my mind. I stopped looking outward to the future, to other people and to pushing myself forward to gain “more”. And I channeled all that energy in the opposite direction. I started looking inward and downward into my center and I felt a gentle sweet dissolving feeling of relief…ahhhh yes…I am back, phew it felt so nasty & real for a while, what a reminder! (Thankfully I have a great teacher who taught me how to channel that energy inward as nobody ever taught me growing up.)

We all need reminders to stay connected. My chosen reminders are the conscious inspiring people I have found in my life, my yoga practice and my relationship with Great Spirit who I love to talk to directly and out loud, it brings me back every time. There are other reminders too; perhaps finding a quiet space for a few minutes and listening to your breath and its rhythm, dancing, spending time in nature or with animals, take time each day to offer gratitude for all that you have, whatever it is you choose as your reminder, remember to make time for it everyday

I feel connected again & clear and grateful for the reminder!  My excitement is back too, especially about the baby boy Luca and I are due to have in September.

From Cathy Pearson
June 2015

*** If you want to learn how to channel your energy inward and move through & heal disconnection quickly, why not book a Transformational Healing session with Cathy at info@yogadeep.com. This can be done in person or by Skype.  You will begin to see what you have been holding in your Cellular Memory that was creating this behavior pattern in the first place and together we can heal it. ***

Cathy has been qualified to offer healings in Transforming Cellular Memory since 2007 by her friend & teacher Don Hanson whom she is forever grateful too. She is also a Vinyasa Yoga & Meditation teacher, for more info see www.yogadeep.com 

Photo Credit: shadow by Pol Úbeda Hervàs

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